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City Sanctuary Therapy - Dr. Joyline Gozho

Counselling, Psychotherapy, CBT and Couples Therapy in London Bridge, City of London,

Milton Keynes, Buckinghamshire, and Online

Relationship Enrichment

Workshops

Workshop 1 - Communication Blockers in Romantic Relationships and How to Restore Healthy Communication

This workshop is a combination of teaching (psychoeducation) and interactive group exercises. Case Vignetters will be used in small groups exercises, as well as individual exercises drawing on personal experience. This is very important as it allows us to start developing the capacity to reflect ourselves, and our unique experiences. Psychoeducation is significance in the sense that knowledge is power. Familiarizing ourselves with something and learning about it, makes it less problematic, as we become more able to face it, and navigate our way round it. Participants should leave the workshop with clear knowledge of:

  • What is communication
  • What makes healthy adult romantic relationships
  • The significance of healthy communication in romantic relationships
  • Examine the relationship between communication and conflict in relationships
  • What are the common communication blockers between partners
  • How can we counter these communication blockers and restore healthy communication
  • The role of cognitive biases in communication and conflict
  • Examining our own cognitive biases
  • The psychodynamics of how we communicate in romantic relationships
  • Learn to use the 3 most helpful communication tools which helps foster healthy communication
  • Ask any questions that arise during the session

Fees

Sessions

Standard - £130

Duration - 3 hours

Number of participants - 12

Participants can attend as couples ideally, or as individuals.

Click here for the cancellation policy

Workshop 2 - Emotional Literacy: Emotional Literacy and Managing Conflict in Romantic Relationships

This workshop is a combination of teaching (psychoeducation) and interactive group exercises. Case Vignetters will be used in small groups exercises, as well as individual exercises drawing on personal experience. This is very important as it allows us to start developing the capacity to reflect ourselves, and our unique experiences. Psychoeducation is significant considering that knowledge is power. Familiarizing ourselves with something and learning about it, makes it less problematic. This is because we become more able to face it, deal with it and navigate our way round it. Participants should leave the workshop with clear knowledge of:

  • What are emotions and their origins
  • What is emotional literacy and its significance in romantic relationships
  • Examine the intersection between emotional literacy and conflict
  • Understand why some people struggle with emotional regulation
  • Psychodynamics of emotional development and how they manifest in romantic relationships
  • What is healthy emotional expression
  • Different types of love
  • Romantic Love (Eros) and Bonding
  • Learn about the main causes of conflict in relationships and how to counter them
  • Learn new conflict resolution skills and how to trouble shoot
  • Develop a greater understanding of anger and its origins
  • Understand the significance of self sooth and different ways of self soothing
  • Ask any questions that arise during the session

If you have further questions feel free to get in touch, or check out the FAQ section.

Fees

Sessions

Standard - £130

Duration - 3 hours

Number of participants - 12

Participants can attend as couples ideally, or as individuals.

Click here for the cancellation policy

Why Workshops on Relationships and how they relate to mental health

The workshops are designed for couples who are at any stage of their relationship, who want to enrich their relationship. I do however recommend couples who are experiencing distress in their relationship to seek couples therapy, and use the workshops as a top up.

The group model has several advantages, including; lessened stigma, skills building, less time constraining, and the group process helping to model, and supporting each other through the process.

My clinical work has enlightened me to the fact that mental wellbeing and relationships is intricately linked; one directly affecting the other. Healthy relationships promote our mental wellbeing, and our mental wellbeing is affected by the relationships that we create around us. Disfunctions in our relationships are a leading cause of poor mental health.

Healthy relationships are fulfilling; ones that make us feel valued, cared for, validated, loved, nurtured enabling us to reciprocate the same. They boost our sense of self, and self-esteem. On the other hand, unhealthy relationships are depleting emotionally, mentally, physically and at times financially, as well as sexually. They crush our self-esteem, sense of self, and make us question everything about ourselves. We are made to feel small, invalid, unloved, insignificant, and muted. Our mental health can be severely impacted by toxic relationships, and we can cause ourselves a lot of harm by staying in them.

Most difficulties that people present to therapy with are relational – issues with relationships with themselves - “I hate myself; l am not good enough etc”, -relationships with others- “I feel let down and heartbroken; she rejected me; he took advantage of me; l am angry with him for….”, -or relationships with both the self and others. Therefore, the key to our mental wellbeing rests in the relationships that we create with ourselves, and others, and our ability to continuously appraise them.

As humans, we are fundamentally social beings. Our ancestors lived and thrived in batches, living in close knit communities. We don’t live in isolation, and relationships are at the core of our being. These relationships we create with ourselves, and others determine how we view ourselves subjectively, and they determine where we place ourselves in society. Fundamentally these relationships provide us with meaning of the world, and who we are in it - our identity in the world.

My motto is therefore that fundamentally, we need to develop a healthy relationship with ourselves first, before we extend the same to others. We cannot expect others to love us, treat us with kindness, & respect us if we don’t afford ourselves the same. In order to be able to fully love and care for others, we need to commit to loving and caring for ourselves first: we need to fill our cup first, otherwise we can’t pour from an empty cup.

As part of our wellbeing, we should also strive to build healthy relationships with others, particularly our loved ones, in a romantic sense. These notions fuel my passion for working with both individuals and couples, helping them create and foster healthy, nurturing, loving, fulfilling, and enduring relationships in their lives. It is my privilege to deliver these workshops on subjects that I am deeply passionate about.

If you have further questions feel free to get in touch, or check out the FAQ section.

Get in Touch

Please get in touch if you have any questions on Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Couples Therapy, or Relationship Enrichment Workshops, or if you like to book an initial session.

You can also call me on 07960462532 if you would prefer to leave a message or speak to me first. I am happy to discuss any queries or questions you may have prior to arranging an initial appointment.

All enquires are usually answered within 24 hours, and all contact is strictly confidential and uses secure phone and email services.

Some frequently asked questions

Is therapy really that important?

It is true that the hustle and bustle of modern day city life leaves some people with little or no time to reflect on themselves. As a result, we find ourselves experiencing stress, low mood, anxiety, poor confidence, low self-esteem, poor sleep, problems with relationships with our loved ones or work colleagues, addictions, at times questioning what life is all about, and genuinely wondering about our purpose in life altogether. The stress of present day life also leads to burn out- cognitive overload, and extreme physical exhaustion. As a result, one adopts unhealthy ways of coping, which have a negative impact on one's mental and psychological well being.

At times, there may be some issues from the past that are unresolved, and affecting different aspects of your life. Therapy offers a reflective space where you can unwind and get to know your self more intimately. It also enables you to find healthier ways of being and relating, emotional processing, find healthier ways of managing any problems you are faced with, work through, and develop the capacity to reflect on yourself which is hugely significant. The decision to start therapy is an important one, albeit, not always easy. Evidence suggests that the key ingredient in any therapeutic encounter is the relationship between the therapist and the client.

It is therefore crucial that you find an experienced therapist, who you can connect with, and walk side by side with; a therapist who offers you a safe space where you feel comfortable, respected, understood, validated, listened to, and safely develop the ability to tune into the deeper parts of yourself. Therapy can therefore help you be in tune with yourself, and live life more meaningfully. I firmly believe that psychological well being should be seen in the same light as physical well being. The stigma around mental health and psychological well being is what perpetuates the unnecessary suffering that most people go through, without seeking help at the right time.

How do I arrange a session?

Call me on 07960462532 or email me on info@citysanctuarytherapy.com. You can also call or email me by clicking the email or call link buttons further up the page. If I am unavailable on the phone, please leave me a message with a name and number. I aim to respond to all messages (email, text, and voicemail) within 24 hours.

Is there any age limit?

Yes. I am an adult Psychodynamic Psychotherapist and l work with ages from 18 and above. I also work with couples.

How long can I expect to be seeing a psychotherapist for?

The choice of therapy we decide in our consultation depends on the nature of your difficulties and what brings you to therapy. Our sessions for time limited psychodynamic counselling and CBT will be 6-12. Our open ended psychotherapy will have no set end date from the beginning. It is however important that we work towards an ending when we do decide to end therapy, as this is a very important part of our work. The length of time you spend in therapy depends on the nature of your difficulties and the depth of the work. Most people stay in therapy for a number of years to allow themselves sufficient time to work through some of the deepest conflicts, and issues from their past that may be impacting on the present, therefore addressing the whole self.

Do I pay for missed sessions or cancellations?

It is usual practice to charge the regular session fee for a session cancelled by the client less than 48 hours beforehand. A full fee or half the session fee is applicable upon exploration of the reasons for cancelling. Any cancellations made by client with a 4 weeks notice will not be charged, and half the session fee is applicable for any cancellation less than that time frame. This is because the space is reserved for you and therefore open even if you do not attend. You will not be expected to make any payment if I am not available. I will give you my holiday dates well in advance, and I will also appreciate having your holiday dates in advance.

How do I make the sessions payments and how often do I make the payments?

YesI typically raise an invoice at the end of each month, unless you prefer to pay weekly or fortnightly, which can be arranged. Payments can be made via bank transfer, Paypal or in cash. This should be done in a timely manner.

How long do sessions last?

Individual sessions last 50 minutes, and couple's therapy sessions lasts 50-60 minutes. Sessions are once weekly at agreed times. This will be agreed in the initial session. At times, I do offer twice a week or fortnightly sessions, depending on my clients' needs and life demands.

How much does each session cost?

Psychodynamic Counselling and Psychotherapy and CBT sessions cost £100/hr for individuals. The rate for couples therapy session is £150/hr. These flat rates are applicable to both London and Buckinghamshire Locations, as well as online. Some insurance clients may have to pay the difference between the insurance rebate and my fee. The fee reflects my experience, qualifications, and specialisms. I am recognised by Axa, Aviva, Cigna, WPA, and Vitality, as a healthcare provider. If you have insurance through any of these companies, you will be able to use it. Please confirm the validity of your cover first. Sessions are subject to a £10 increase annually; typically at the beginning of each year. This will be discussed with you in session.

What is the difference between CBT and Psychodynamic Psychotherapy?

CBT is a practical approach which helps you find ways of managing present day distress, while psychodynamic psychotherapy helps us explore and address the source of the distress. Using the metaphor of a house on fire- CBT is akin to putting out the fire flames-cooling and smothering the flames, so that the fire dies down. Psychodynamic work is akin to us figuring out the cause/source of the fire altogether. This is important, otherwise one runs the risk of having yet another fire.

Can I bring another person to the sessions (eg. partner, friend, brother?

I work with couples, offering couples therapy. However, this needs to be agreed right from the beginning of our work.

How confidential are the sessions?

Sessions are confidential unless if there are legal implications or in the event of serious risk factors that your GP or other practitioners have to be aware of. As an ethical practitioner, any decision to do so is always in your best interest. I have full indemnity insurance to cover my practice as a therapist. All information kept about you is stored in line with the GDPR laws.

I have a very busy lifestyle and can't commit to weekly sessions in London. Can I use Zoom or Skype as an alternative to face to face contact? I am unable to travel to have my sessions in person, due to the Covid-19 crisis

Yes, we can have sessions over Zoom, Skype or Telephone. These sessions are scheduled in the same fashion as face to face sessions.


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